Women scare tf outta me...

There I was again…

Same place, same scenario, same internal battle.

My biggest fear was right in front of me…

• Not a grizzly bear.

• Not a tax audit.

• Not awkward elevator talk.

5 feet and 2 inches of pure terror sat 3 tables next to me (sipping her double whip, light foam latte).

An attractive human of the opposite sex.

I'd been rehearsing what to say for 27 minutes.

Twenty-seven minutes of mental gymnastics while my coffee turned cold.

"Just walk over," I told myself. "Say something... Anything."

But my body wouldn't move. Instead, my mind raced:

What if she's not single?

(Then congrats, you'd join the other 7 billion people not dating her).

What if she thinks I'm weird?

(Breaking news: you ARE weird. You've been stalking her from behind a laptop for 30 minutes).

What if I stumble over my words and look like an idiot?

(As opposed to looking like an idiot silently staring at her while aging in real-time).

What if I'm interrupting her day?

(Yes, God forbid you interrupt her thrilling afternoon of...sitting alone in a coffee shop).

So I sat there, watching the minutes tick by, crafting the "perfect" opener that would somehow transcend all possible rejection scenarios.

Then she stood up. Packed her bag. Started walking toward the door.

And just like dozens of times before, I felt that familiar pang of regret wash over me as another opportunity slipped away.

Mental Masturbation

At home, I had a stack of dating books with dog-eared pages and highlighted passages.

I'd read thousands of pages about approach anxiety, conversation techniques, and building confidence.

I told myself, “Just more book…” and I’d finally feel ready.

But none of it mattered when I was frozen in the moment, overthinking myself into paralysis like I was Stephen Hawking.

The Day Everything Changed

One day, mid set into my chest workout, I saw my gym crush pass me like the countless other times over the months.

Different setting, same scenario.

Once again, I was caught in an internal battle with my dumb 22-year-old brain.

For the next 20 minutes, my thoughts ranged from “Go talk to her, dumby!” to “She’s at the gym and doesn’t want to be bothered…”

But something changed that day.

I was fed up with the thought of seeing her walk out and feeling that all too familiar disappointment

“If not now, then when?” I told myself.

So I Did One of The Scariest Things of My Life…

I put one foot in front of the other and started walking in her direction.

“Wait, dude, wtf are you doing…” my brain yelled.

I was 30 feet away from her on the treadmill.

“ABORT MISSION. GO BACK SOLDIER!”

I was now 20 feet away.

“Don’t panic. Don’t panic. Don’t panic.”

Her and I locked eyes as I came within speaking distance…

“AW SHIEEET, IT’S TOO LATE TO BACK OUT NOW.”

I forced my brain to shut off as the adrenaline took over.

I didn’t know what to say, so I just blurted out the first thing that came to mind:

“Hey, I thought you were cute and I was wondering if I could get your number?”

And you know what?

As SOON as the words left my mouth, something funny happened…

• I didn't feel fear.

• I didn't feel anxiety.

• I didn't combust into flames or melt into the floor tiles.

She smiled, blushed a little, and said, "Sure!"

We talked for a few minutes. I got her number. And later that week, we went on our first date.

That 1 f*cking action…

That terrifying moment of just DOING rather than THINKING…

That taught me more than all those dating books combined.

The Same Pattern in Business

Fast forward to my journey starting an online business.

I'd read every blog post, watched every YouTube video, and bought every course on how to become a "digital entrepreneur."

My browser history was a graveyard of "how to start a business" articles. I was essentially building an elaborate blanket fort of information to hide in.

And for what? So I could keep telling myself I was "getting ready" instead of admitting I was scared shitless?

I was doing the exact same thing I did with dating—overthinking to the point of paralysis.

Same shit, different arena.

My Ghostwriting Journey

When I started my ghostwriting business, the fears were just as intense:

• Who would pay me thousands to write their content?

• What if I couldn't deliver results?

• What if people discovered I was just figuring it out as I went along?

Then one day, I remembered the gym. The fear. The walking across the room.

So I did the online equivalent.

I reached out to people I thought could use my help.

• No perfect pitch.

• No bulletproof strategy.

• No idea wtf I was doing.

Just the digital version of walking across the room.

Until 1 person responded, “We’d love to move forward...”

A few hours later, $3,000 hit my bank account.

I nearly fell off my chair.

This was either going to be the start of my business or an elaborate scam.

Either way, it was more exciting than staring at my laptop watching another "10 Steps to Starting a 6-Figure Business" YouTube video.

Within 30 days, I landed a two $3K a month and one $5K/month ghostwriting clients.

A total of $11K/month.

All because I stopped thinking and started walking.

You’re 1 Leap Away

The gap between where you are and where you want to be isn't filled with more information.

It's filled with uncomfortable action.

Most people who want to build a ghostwriting business are frozen in that gym moment, overthinking every move:

• "I need to read more about writing first..."

• "I should wait until I have more followers myself..."

• "Let me just take one more course on client acquisition..."

Meanwhile, they're aging in real-time while opportunities walk out the door.

The people who succeed?

They're the ones who get up and walk across the gym before they feel ready.

What This Means For You

If you're feeling the pull toward building your own business…

Toward financial freedom, location independence, and doing work that truly matters, but find yourself stuck in research mode...

I want you to know something:

You already know enough to take the first step.

The clarity you're seeking won't come from more mental masturbation.

It’ll come from doing.

Imagine 6 months from now…

While others are still "getting ready" and "doing research," you've already:

• Landed your first high-paying client.

• Built a system for consistently creating engaging content.

• Developed the confidence to charge what you're really worth.

• Created a foundation for a business that gives you freedom and fulfillment.

All because you decided to stand up and walk across the gym.

Your Canadian friend.

Dakota “Women Scare Me” Robertson

P.S.

I won’t be your dating coach, but I can be your ghostwriting coach.

If you want me in your corner, forcing you (lovingly) to take action to land clients…

Then apply for my ghostwriting program by clicking here.

A couple wins from Growth Ghost members today…

Personal Update

I’ve been building my relationship with God a lot more lately.

My mother took me to church as a kid, but I never vibed with it.

All the singing and sermons felt forced upon me, so I resisted.

But over the past 2 years, I’ve been pulled more toward faith.

Thanks to some great friends and a few incidents that I just can’t chalk up to “coincidence.”

I’ve started reading daily Psalms (I think that’s what they’re called) with the app, Haven. Would recommend.

I also found it funny af that I recently got a notification of my domain name renewal of bible humper dot com (don’t ask).

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